Fighting Negativity

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I’ve been having a bit of a crazy time again recently, moved house twice in three weeks and have only just now got the internet set up at my new home, plus my laptop is on the blink so a bit unpredictable at the moment. Plus, I’ve had other stuff going on in my personal life that has really distracted me from blogging. I’ll always love blogging, so although I’m gone from time to time, I’m sure I’ll always return.

Well, now I’m back, I wanted to write about something a little different. Whether you officially suffer from Depression or not, I’m sure all of you can be accused of being pessimistic from time to time, complaining and moaning and not valuing what you have. I know I am, I can get in such a mood sometimes. So, I thought it would be useful to write down some tips I’ve picked up lately to help stay positive and combat negativity in life. I’m no expert, these are just things I’ve picked up from experience and if you’ve got anything else to add, please leave a comment or tweet me @JayneKitsch.

Reasons to be Cheerful

I had honestly forgotten how therapeutic it can be to physically write down things, old fashioned pen and paper style. One of the things I learnt from therapy is that when you’re feeling low, making a list can always help perk you up. To help focus on positives over negatives, write a list of things to be thankful for, reasons to be cheerful.

These can be all kinds of things, from tiny little things about aspects of your personality or appearance that you like or big things like being in a job you love or living somewhere awesome. Anyway, having this written down will help focus your mind on the happy things in life and keep it somewhere handy and you can re-read whenever you’re feeling low.

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Problems have Solutions

Another thing I’ve done is write down your key worries or problems in life and then think up at least three realistic solutions to them. Again, this can be use as something to look at when you’re feeling crap and gives you something to work towards. Often the solutions to our problems, anxieties or worries are really simple. For example, one of my worries was that I was feeling lonely, my solutions to this are making more plans with friends so that I don’t have to stay home alone and for when I have to be home alone, setting myself goals to achieve, for example writing a blog post.

Enjoy the Little Things

Taking inspiration from one of the rules from one of my fave movies, Zombieland, I can’t stress how important it is to find pleasure in the little things in life. Here’s a couple of little things that always cheer me up…

  1. Listening to some upbeat music and singing along. My choice is usually something by Blink 182, New Found Glory or the soundtrack to The Rocky Horror Picture Show.
  2. Watching a favourite film, films for me are an ultimate distraction, I love forgetting the real world for a bit and enjoying a film. My favourite films for cheering me up however are The Lost Boys, The Darjeeling Limited and Shaun of the Dead.
  3. Having a treat, this could be something like buying a new nail polish and treating yourself to a mini manicure at home to eating a big slice of your favourite cake.
  4. Catching up with a bestie. Having someone to talk to is super important in life, it’s always going to cheer you up if you can hang out with one of your favourite people for an hour or so.
  5. Spend sometime reading something funny or looking at pictures of kittens on the internet, instant happy face. I usually head to Buzzfeed for that.

What would your tips be for being more positive?

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4 thoughts on “Fighting Negativity

  1. I recently wrote a blog post myself on the topic of positivity, and like yourself i always find myself thinking of all the wonderful things i have in my life and what i’m grateful for and that soon puts my heart at ease 🙂

    IN MY SUNDAY BEST

    Sade XO

  2. I love this! I have generalised anxiety disorder and major depression and have done for nearly 15 years and although I know all the textbook things to help myself I am always learning new things.
    A few months ago I read somewhere that it’s incredibly helpful at the end of the day to write down three good things about the last 24 hours. Over time people have found it really therapeutic just to focus on the positive bits no matter how small they are. I’ve been doing it for a while and some days (especially lately) I’ve had things as silly as ‘I made my bed’ but it really does make you sit and just take stock for a few minutes.
    I also have a long list of nice things to do when I’m feeling bad. When I feel like I can’t do anything except sit and breathe it’s brilliant having something to look at and find one thing that takes my fancy. My therapist told me years ago that if you only have 2% of energy today use it on something that will make you feel good or bring you a tiny amount of joy rather than something you feel you *should* do.
    I’ve rambled, I’ll stop now! You’re lovely and I hope things are settling down for you again. Masses of love xxx

    1. Awesome comment Elena, thank you. Really interesting. I think I’m getting there, but life is always going to have ups and downs, so I don’t expect things to ever be 100% fine. We’ve got to help ourselves, do the little things to make life easier to manage.

  3. This book has been amazing for me over the past year – I would go as far as saying, it has changed my life (big I know!)

    It has helped me changed the way I think about everyday life and how to take joy in the smallest things. It comes with audio for some great meditation practices.

    Mindfulness is the way forward for me!

    http://www.waterstones.com/waterstonesweb/products/mark+williams/dr-+danny+penman/mindfulness/7441735/?gclid=CL-2w8z52roCFTGWtAodMEQATQ

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